How to Talk to Anybody

This book exceeded my expectations. It is well written and easy to read. There was so much material in it that it will cater for the person struggling to those wishing to use advanced methods. The author is clearly an expert in the area. The book is so well researched and uses many scientific examples and stories which are carefully documented in the references to illustrate the points. The book comes in two part. In part one the author explains how the brain and the mind work getting the reader to understand where the self learned limitations come. The author covered neuroplasticity and how the brain can rewire using some great examples. It was fascinating to learn that we see not with our eyes but with our brains and the author used an everyday example of a camera compared to the human eye to show this. The reader is left to conclude, if there are certain things that are thought of as truths and are not truths could self limiting beliefs in the ability to talk to anyone effectively be one. In addition there are some neat quotes within the book that get the reader thinking. Moving on to part two the book shows a more prescriptive method to become adept in any conversation. The author shares many hidden gems and there is a nice touch of the use of humour too. There is a clever section on how to use questions for power and control in a conversation and small talk and how to start a conversation were covered well is covered really well. This really is a mind-opening book and different to others that I have come across and is a really enjoyable read. It is a thorough guide to all things conversational. I would thoroughly recommend potential buyers to get this book. Highly recommended

From the moment I started reading How to Talk to Anybody, I was completely drawn in. The book unwrapped realities I had never consciously noticed—things that have always been there but were hidden in plain sight. What I love most is how practical and relatable the advice is. Whether it’s small talk, business conversations, or social interactions, the book provides clear strategies that actually work. I found myself reflecting on past conversations and realizing how small tweaks could have made a huge difference. If you want to improve your communication skills and gain confidence in any social setting, this book is a must-read. It’s engaging, eye-opening, and full of valuable insights. Highly recommended!

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I work in sales, and have read several books on communication over the years. This book ranks highly. It has the advanatage of combining several of the best bits of several books condensed into one. E.g - How to talk to anyone (liel Lowendes - Conversation tips, networking tips, body language) - Influence (Robert Cialdini - 7 factors of influence) - The Way of the wolf (NLP - State management) - Pitch anything (Break down of the reptilian, mammalian and human elements of the brain and what this means for sales) But it's also worth mentioning that there are some excellent new ideas contained in this book as well... Ultimately this is a brilliant resource for anyone looking to improve their communication skills .

I'm half way through this book and honestly have come across so many typos in the publishing. It's ironic considering the book is about communication. Extremely science based and with the typos it just doesn't read smoothly.

Again builds more on the sales and body language books to deepen your knowledge and understanding in communication skills. This book focuses more on speech and public speaking which is key if you are looking to build confidence in yourself to give speeches or presentations especially if in a professional capacity. Noticed some spelling and grammar mistakes but wondered if it was deliberate to focus ur awareness skills or if it was just written in a hurry to a deadline and not proof read. Still very good book if you are looking to become more self confident and become less of an introvert. Also, read the bonus chapter and listening to the audio which is excellent to relax too!

Good book.

I enjoyed this book. Having read several books on the subject of developing effective communication skills. I found this to be the most thorough with a different approach. The author gives lots of examples on how to start and lead a conversation with people and how to naturally come across as friendly and charismatic. The author provides you with a multitude of advanced conversational techniques that you can use when in conversation. The techniques In the book are explained in a easy and applicable manner. If you are looking to transform your conversation skills this book is a must read.

Ayant travaillé avec Derek pendant quelques années, dans le secteur de la finance, j'ai pu le voir à l'oeuvre... C'était toujours un plaisir de faire des meetings avec lui que se soit de manière formelle dans un bureau ou de manière plus détendue autour d'un business lunch. Il sait mettre tout le monde à l'aise (surtout que mon anglais "parlé" ne vole pas très haut), son sourire et son empathie sont contagieuses et, par conséquent, les clients/prospects étaient toujours ravis de le voir/l'accueillir et moi je ne disais jamais non pour aller le rejoindre dans le nord de l'Angleterre... malgré la météo pas toujours clémente. Bref, je conseille vivement ce livre à tout le monde. Il vous sera utile aussi bien dans votre vie professionnelle lorsque vous devez interagir avec des collègues ou clients que dans la vie de tous les jours si vous êtes normalement constitué socialement... Il y a plein de petits trucs, d'évidences qui sont bonnes à être répétées et d'exemples concrets pour que vous et votre entourage vous sentiez plus à l'aise, plus épanouis et donc plus heureux. CQFD

Me está gustando mucho y estoy aprendiendo un montón, aunque a veces hay cosas que ya sabemos este libro de las explica bien y así puedes ponerlas en marcha.

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How to Talk to Anybody offers a fascinating blend of neuroscience and practical advice on communication, making it an essential read for anyone looking to improve their social skills in business, management, or personal settings. One of the most striking points in the book is the idea that "the brain cannot tell the difference between something vividly imagined and something experienced." The author uses a compelling example: a group of volunteers either played piano notes or imagined playing them for five days. Both groups showed identical changes in the brain, proving that imagination can be as powerful as real experience. This insight explains why we can feel nervous or stressed even when nothing is happening—our brains are often creating imaginary scenarios that feel entirely real. The book also dives into the concept of brain plasticity. Through the story of Matthew, who lives a normal life despite having half of his brain removed, the author illustrates the brain's incredible ability to adapt and rewire itself in response to new challenges. This notion of "neuroplasticity" reinforces that we have the potential to change and adapt throughout our lives, an empowering message for anyone struggling with personal growth or learning new skills. The author emphasizes that our perceptions are not always aligned with reality. For example, only 20% of what we see is based on the actual light entering our eyes—the rest is constructed by our brains based on past experiences. This tendency of the brain to "fill in the gaps" explains phenomena like seeing faces in clouds or missing obvious objects in plain sight, such as our keys. It also points out how differently people can perceive the same situation, underlining the importance of empathy and open-mindedness in communication. Another highlight is the book's practical tips on building rapport, like mirroring someone’s breathing or using language patterns that echo their own words. The "echo technique"—repeating back exactly what someone has said—creates an instant connection, making people feel heard and understood. Similarly, the idea of using the word "because" when asking for favors taps into a hardwired human bias to comply more readily when a reason is provided, even if the reason seems trivial. The author also discusses body language, illustrating how leaning towards someone shows interest while distancing oneself shows the opposite. Upward gestures, such as those we instinctively use when talking positively, indicate optimism, while downward gestures suggest negativity. These insights into non-verbal communication are incredibly useful, especially for those navigating complex business environments. In terms of dealing with challenging situations, the book offers tools for handling complaints and difficult personalities. By agreeing with someone and echoing their concerns before suggesting a solution, it becomes almost impossible for the other person to keep arguing, as they feel validated. This simple, yet powerful approach helps de-escalate tense situations and steer conversations towards a positive outcome. In a world where effective communication is crucial, How to Talk to Anybody stands out as both enlightening and highly applicable. It not only provides a deep understanding of how the brain works in social interactions but also equips readers with practical strategies to become better communicators. This book is a must-read for anyone interested in mastering the subtle art of conversation—whether in business or in everyday life.