A Look Inside a Rare Mind: An INFJ's Journal through Personal Discovery

Hi, Wow ... now I know why I've never really felt like I've fit in per se. I'm a retired (female) military officer ... not your typical personality for a military officer, but I succeeded and the reason, I feel, is because I loved my mission and felt like I was making a difference. I appreciated leaders who trusted me to get my job done and afforded me a bit of autonomy to complete my work; I was afforded autonomy by being particularly good at what I did. That being said, I am cognizant I have always been very critical of myself, overly concerned with what other people think of me, and different ... not sure how to explain that except to another INFJ:). I am also an empath; I can be overly tolerant of some people (sometimes to my detriment) and have no tolerance for others:). That being said, I now understand why I could have a successful career as a military officer while not recognizing my own marriage was abusive. I compartmentalized. So ... for my other INFJ friends out there ... we're a rare breed and I suspect many of us have felt that for a long time, but didn't know why ... this book provides some great insight and helps you appreciate our unique personality and why we're so important (and we are so important:)). It may have taken me until my mid-40s to figure this out, but it finally makes sense!

I have a lot of issues, I am considered mentally disabled from panic and depression. I would guess that I get overwhelmed very easy from people, but I don't think that I handle it as well as the author. Keep up your great personal development. Loved the book thanks for the insight.

For a short book, this was interesting. I am an INFJ, and I love typology in general. Does this give you something you won't find in other Myers-Briggs books? Yes, in a good and bad sense. The author's INFJ description is much more personalized than you'll find in a general typology book. To the extent these minutiae apply to you or an INFJ you know, this will be a great thing. All INFJs aren't entirely the same though, so you may find passages and chapters that don't mesh with your INFJ experiences to be overly dramatic or off-base. That's not to say that the author's insights are incorrect or exaggerated, but just that I find it best to think of this as one INFJ's perspective, and not as a definitive guide. A good, short read, especially for the price.

Online info on INFJ's is so very sterile. This INFJ book is a very personal discussion of INFJ-ness. I gained tremendous insight into myself and much peace and pleasure. To have someone say what I believed only I thought or experienced was great. Good reminder that, sometimes, what I feel is not my own. For example, there's a person I have in my life, and we are both angry when together, though when I think about it, I wasn't angry; I was just feeling anger. I realized I am experiencing her anger, not mine. I must be careful about this. I thank the author for her candor, for being a glass-front cabinet to allow us all a chance to see inside all the treasures. Anyone who is involved with an INFJ should read this book to better understand their INFJ's actions and moods. And while that person may not understand these ways, all you have to do is accept that this IS the way the INFJ is. Blessing on Ms. Soldner for writing this.

I am an INFJ myself so I was pleased to find a whole book about being an INFJ. But a lot of what is in the book seems to be distinctive of the author herself and not true of all INFJs (such as being manipulative). I am a college counselor and psychology instructor who has given the Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory to over a thousand students, and given hundreds of presentations on the 16 personality types, including INFJs, so I base my comments about this book on my own knowledge of personality types. I want to commend the author for writing with self-honesty and self-revelation, and I believe a sincere intent to help other INFJs. But I think she is fairly young (maybe young 30s?) and she writes from the perspective of her own life experiences. I don't believe she has done any extensive research into the most shared characteristics of INFJs. She describes more negative characteristics of INFJs than are true of most of us. Keep in mind that INFJs are not identical to each other and it is easy for a young person to confuse some of her own processes as characteristics of being an INFJ when in fact they might just be true of her but not INFJ characteristics. I think that happened here with some of her chapters. As we get older we develop counter-balancing characteristics, and our positive qualities come more into play. The author should not take offense by what I am saying here because she can't be other than the age she is. As Carl Jung himself said, none of us are really able to develop our personalities fully until we reach middle age. If you want a book that describes the more developed positive qualities of an INFJ, find a different book.

I absolutely loved this book! As an INFJ, I find it extremely difficult to even articulate our oxymoron traits and all of the beautiful contrasts we face every day but Jennifer certainly does this justice. She describes her ideas genuinely and clearly. I could relate completely with everything she said- and found myself pondering the thought provoking topics later. Loved the short blurb style! I think I read this in a sitting or two, as it captivated my interest & was incredibly intruiging. Jennifer's words are a beautiful, real, vulnerable- the only way us INFJ's know how- and will offer anyone who reads it an accurate & profound look into the life of an INFJ. Her use of personal stories and insights really served to enhance her ideas and allow us to understand even more deeply. Anyone would benefit from reading this book, even if you are not an INFJ yourself- as such a rare personality type, it would be fascinating to anyone, especially those in relationship with INFJ's.

Very good, but I wish it wasn't so short! Please write another and make it longer if you could, I would def buy it.

This was cool because it was an actual INFJ who wrote the book. However, its pretty short and basic. She explains different parts of herself in each little segment (some of which I did not agree were about being an INFJ, just about being her). But it was basically a shallow description of her likes and dislikes. The book was not very personal. It never went in depth about her mind like the title seems to suggest. Just more of a list of things about her. I wasn't impressed with her writing skills at all. (Although it seemed like she was). A big part of being an INFJ is going deeper than the average person, I expected that to be the case here and it wasn't. Its okay, but more just info about how she runs her life. I would have liked something with more depth,

I Chose to by this item because it's my Personality Type

Intéressant, assez complet et une touche personnel; la personne qui l'a reçue a apprécie, facile à lire, pas trop épais non plus!Merci

Excellent, well written book.

Spendere €2,99 per questo libro su amazon kindle non credo sia stato soddisfacente. Quando ho letto l'introduzione sembrava parlare di me in quanto INFJ ma solo in alcuni punti mi ritrovo, in altri, come per esempio il capitolo sulla manipolazione, non mi sento affatto rappresentata e anzi, è l'opposto di quello che sono io e non credo l'autrice abbia fatto una cosa buona a parlare di questo suo tratto come se fosse così anche per gli altri INFJ.

I was able to relate with a number of points made but there were others that were very far off for me personally. The main points for me that hit home were, constantly thinking and overthinking, feeling immensely and deeply my own and others feelings, the juxtaposition of wanting to help but not always being able to, feeling the need to have a level of control and order amidst the chaos of thoughts/feelings, and a few other points. The manipulation part I feel a bit weary of because although I suppose it within our abilities because of the ability and intensity to feel another's feelings I feel it is very morally wrong, I never want to hurt anyone. I'd rather take on the pain myself. I would recommend it as a read but personally it took me awhile to really feel like the text was speaking to me as an INFJ.