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# 4.7/5 star reader approval Timeless wisdom in print Radical, transformative insights Undefended Love

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> 📖 Transform your love, transform your life.

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- • **Highly Rated & Trusted:** Join 275+ readers who gave this book a stellar 4.7/5 rating.
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- • **Expertly Balanced Content:** A perfect blend of concepts, examples, and solutions for profound personal growth.
- • **Embrace Emotional Liberation:** Transform pain and fear into your pathway to freedom and wholeness.
- • **Unlock Radical Relationship Wisdom:** Dive deep beyond surface-level love and discover the true purpose of connection.

## Overview

Undefended Love is a bestselling, deeply transformative book that challenges conventional views on relationships by encouraging readers to embrace vulnerability and emotional pain as gateways to true connection and self-liberation. With a 4.7-star rating from over 275 readers, this used copy offers timeless wisdom and practical guidance for anyone seeking profound personal and relational growth.

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Review: Exceptional, timeless, and worthy of your attention - Undefended Love is a rare and wonderful book. It speaks with timeless wisdom about the nature of our true self, and of how we relate to ourselves, our lives and our loved ones. This book can free you and enhance you - providing a deeper and compassionate understanding of the reactive and compensating patterns we all develop to protect ourselves. It is these very patterns that so often cause us to contract in our lives and in our relationships, and that cost us the full experience of feeling open, safe, and connected to life and others. With a wonderfully balanced mix of concepts, examples and solutions, the authors take us on a journey into our deepest selves - into both our timeless essence and into our deepest and most fiercely protected fears. They then lovingly illuminate the path beyond those fears into greater wholeness, peace and open-heartedness. This is a book about true strength - the strength to face and fully experience those parts of ourselves which we so often deny and turn away from, the strength to be open and experience ourselves and others absent our usual constricting defenses. It is so often the same walls we think protect us that deny us the full experience of the wonder of our own life and of connecting with others. This book is one of the most elegant maps of the territory beyond such defenses that I have ever encountered - a place of texture, nuance and richness that most people believe is reserved for just a few special moments in their lives. I have read many books on psychology, conditioning, communication, relationship and the like. Very few have touched me as deeply as this one. Do yourself a true favor and read this book. It will enrich your life.
Review: Do you want long-term healing and transformation? Start here with this book. - This is one of the most profound, deep, and powerful books I have ever read. There aren't many books out there like this. Many of the self-help books seem to only scratch the surface. This book requires much more if its readers. And it is RADICAL!! REVOLUTIONARY!! This book has totally changed my perspective about the goal and purpose of relationships. All my life, I sought people who could meet my core needs. Finding someone who could love me unconditionally and who could give me what I needed: I thought that was the ultimate goal and point of a relationship. The authors suggest otherwise. Closeness, reciprocity, and getting needs met are not the purpose of relationship. The point of relationships is to mirror back our cracked identities so that we can heal and reconnect with our essence, our own core. This seems counterintuitive: that relationships are suppose to agitate us, to reveal our "broken toes." But if I really take in what they're saying and do this work of excavation, what I'm realizing is that I have the capacity to meet my own needs, to give myself what I've been searching for in others. There is a whole lot of unlearning and relearning. And I'm still trying to wrap my head around this new definition of relationship because it is antithetical to everything that our society teaches us about the purpose and goal of relationships. Another reason why this book is revolutionary is because doing this work DEMANDS an excavation of pain and fear. According to the authors, pain and fear (or any "negative" reaction, for that matter) become the doorway to freedom, wholeness, and affirmation. Again, it all seems counterintuitive because we've been taught to run away from "negative" feelings. But the authors argue otherwise, claiming that we must embrace those feelings--that in that pain, in that fear, resides our liberation, which is why this work is so radical. And which is why this work is so hard and scary. But I'm ready to jump into the Black Hole with both feet because I know doing so is the path to my own liberation.

## Features

- Used Book in Good Condition

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #635,560 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #1,752 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) #2,023 in Love & Romance (Books) #2,355 in Marriage |
| Customer Reviews | 4.7 out of 5 stars 275 Reviews |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Exceptional, timeless, and worthy of your attention
*by D***N on February 7, 2011*

Undefended Love is a rare and wonderful book. It speaks with timeless wisdom about the nature of our true self, and of how we relate to ourselves, our lives and our loved ones. This book can free you and enhance you - providing a deeper and compassionate understanding of the reactive and compensating patterns we all develop to protect ourselves. It is these very patterns that so often cause us to contract in our lives and in our relationships, and that cost us the full experience of feeling open, safe, and connected to life and others. With a wonderfully balanced mix of concepts, examples and solutions, the authors take us on a journey into our deepest selves - into both our timeless essence and into our deepest and most fiercely protected fears. They then lovingly illuminate the path beyond those fears into greater wholeness, peace and open-heartedness. This is a book about true strength - the strength to face and fully experience those parts of ourselves which we so often deny and turn away from, the strength to be open and experience ourselves and others absent our usual constricting defenses. It is so often the same walls we think protect us that deny us the full experience of the wonder of our own life and of connecting with others. This book is one of the most elegant maps of the territory beyond such defenses that I have ever encountered - a place of texture, nuance and richness that most people believe is reserved for just a few special moments in their lives. I have read many books on psychology, conditioning, communication, relationship and the like. Very few have touched me as deeply as this one. Do yourself a true favor and read this book. It will enrich your life.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Do you want long-term healing and transformation? Start here with this book.
*by T***E on December 24, 2014*

This is one of the most profound, deep, and powerful books I have ever read. There aren't many books out there like this. Many of the self-help books seem to only scratch the surface. This book requires much more if its readers. And it is RADICAL!! REVOLUTIONARY!! This book has totally changed my perspective about the goal and purpose of relationships. All my life, I sought people who could meet my core needs. Finding someone who could love me unconditionally and who could give me what I needed: I thought that was the ultimate goal and point of a relationship. The authors suggest otherwise. Closeness, reciprocity, and getting needs met are not the purpose of relationship. The point of relationships is to mirror back our cracked identities so that we can heal and reconnect with our essence, our own core. This seems counterintuitive: that relationships are suppose to agitate us, to reveal our "broken toes." But if I really take in what they're saying and do this work of excavation, what I'm realizing is that I have the capacity to meet my own needs, to give myself what I've been searching for in others. There is a whole lot of unlearning and relearning. And I'm still trying to wrap my head around this new definition of relationship because it is antithetical to everything that our society teaches us about the purpose and goal of relationships. Another reason why this book is revolutionary is because doing this work DEMANDS an excavation of pain and fear. According to the authors, pain and fear (or any "negative" reaction, for that matter) become the doorway to freedom, wholeness, and affirmation. Again, it all seems counterintuitive because we've been taught to run away from "negative" feelings. But the authors argue otherwise, claiming that we must embrace those feelings--that in that pain, in that fear, resides our liberation, which is why this work is so radical. And which is why this work is so hard and scary. But I'm ready to jump into the Black Hole with both feet because I know doing so is the path to my own liberation.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ The most helpful book I have read for personal and relationship healing
*by D***E on June 22, 2010*

As I am writing a book on relationship and have a relationship myself that needs evolving, I have not only read but carefully studied the majority of the most important English speaking teachers of relationship in our time. Among the very impressive giants of the field, I found Marlena Lyons and Jett Psaris to be the most helpful. They are extremely thorough and clear in telling you why you need to take responsibility for your reactions to your partner whether or not their behavior is a problem in itself (not just that you do) and how to do it at the deepest core level possible. They go beyond telling you what it means to treat your partner in a conscious way and the importance of knowing yourself and validating yourself, rather than seeking to get that from your partner, to telling you what you need to do and how to do it to actually achieve that holy grail. The book explains a concept, gives you guided self inquiry questions that enable you to identify where you are in relationship to the concept, and then gives exercises that enable you to do the work of understanding and healing yourself. As the process unfolds through the course of the book, you learn the skills to heal yourself and your relationship, one layer after another. The interplay of the writers beautiful languaging skills and the depth of their perceptions means that this book is peppered with memorable, quotable quotes on most pages. My book is underlined all over the place. It is deep book without being a difficult read. I couldn't put it down. I was mesmerized and read it over a couple of days. In the middle of the book I looked up the authors web-site and signed up for their next workshop. That's how powerful it was for me. Undefended Love is a very helpful book for both therapists working with relationships and for people seeking to save and heal their relationships. It is also an immensely helpful book for people seeking either to use their relationships to heal themselves and or take their relationship from an emotionally healthy place to a really exciting transformative place. For those who wish to take that journey of spiritual partnership into conscious living, conscious relating, this is an amazing guidebook. It is also an excellent book for anyone who is not in a relationship who wants to heal their deep childhood wounds and free themselves of their conditioning. Esther Perlis, in her book Mating in Captivity, speaks of the need to bring mystery,the unknown and uncertainty into relationships in order to keep the passion alive. Undefended Love tells the most fundamental way to do this. I am now telling people that if they can only read one book on relationship to read Undefended Love. Anastas Harris, Ph.D.

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